The Virtue of Patience

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If there is one thing that I think we can all agree on during this Coronavirus time is that our patience is running thin. Today in Chicago, there was snow on the ground when I woke up, and that did not help.

The funny thing about patience is that we tend to have the least amount of it when we need it the most. This is especially true right now. We tend to rely on certainty to increase our patience. When we know something is going to end or has a specific time, we can adjust our expectations and hopefully increase our levels of patience.

Right now, all we have is uncertainty. There is the uncertainty of when “Shelter in-home” will end, of when we can get back to work or the office when the kids get back to their routines, when sports will come back or when we can go to a restaurant?

We also have a tremendous amount of uncertainty towards the economy and the stock market, and this depletes our patience even more.

What science tells us, however, is that if we can build up our patience levels, we will be much more successful when dealing with these challenges.

So how do we increase our patience levels? We can do the familiar, exercise, eat right, get plenty of sleep, and get outside. Two additional things that experts encourage are:

1.      Meditation

I have been using both the Headspace and Ten Percent Happier apps, and they are great. They both provide tools to help take some time for ourselves, but also to help us recognize when we are becoming more impatient.

2.       Gratitude

Finding ways to be thankful even for the little things in life is proven to calm our anxiety and help manage stress. You can keep a journal on your own or get “The Five Minute Journal,” which is easy to use or use an app to help maintain this practice. 

Taking some time to explore one or both areas will help to create the patience to get through these difficult times. If you have any questions or would like to discuss my personal experience with these, please let me know.

"Nothing is ever as good or as bad as it seems" - Scott Galloway

Scott Galloway is a very successful business owner, author and Marketing Professor at NYU's Stern School of Business.  In his new book, "The Algebra of Happiness", he explains the quote in the subject of this email.

Our perception of how bad things are is typically much worse than they actually are in reality and our perception during good times is that they are much better than they really are.

Credit - “The Algebra of Happiness” Scott Galloway

Credit - “The Algebra of Happiness” Scott Galloway


This weekend, I am doing what I am sure all of you are. Trying to parse through the news and figure out what the possible outcomes of the Coronavirus will be?

What I have seen is that there is a total inconsistency in the articles and the news that I'm reading.  We know that this is a terrible situation and that getting through this will not be easy.  When the news is inconsistent and we don't know what will happen it becomes very easy to catastrophize and project the end of the world as we know it.  

Things are bad and the news will get worse this week. (I am getting tired of saying that) But I try to keep the above quote in mind.

We all need to do whatever it takes to get through this.  In the next few weeks, I will be sending emails about the things in our control to help us make it through this incredibly hard time.

Stay Healthy,
Dan